Welcome to the second in a series of articles written by non-bloggers. If you’re interested in contributing an article to the Aerie, the invitation is here.
This week, our guest author is Stupid Mage (hey, I don’t make this stuff up!) He has a bit of a dilemma; perhaps some of you can help him out.
Hello, This is Stupid Mage.
Welcome to Stupid Stuff.
I’m an officer in a very small casual guild. Small enough that I can say I’ve shaken hands with all of the members except one. So progression is slow but we generally accept that.
I try to keep our members informed about gear, talents, and changes to game mechanics. And I often send links to articles I think are read worthy. We have no rules regarding class or spec, but sometimes I see stuff that bothers me. Hunter with 45+ points in MM and no Mortal Shots nor True Shot Aura, 70 Warrior swinging 40.0 dps weapons, 70 Caster with less than 350 spellpower, Somebody with no gems in sockets…
I’m stupid so stuff like that bothers me when it doesn’t really affect me at all, and I can’t just let it drop. I sent gear that is better than what they have, I sent gold with a "give XX talent a try, change back if you don’t like it". But the gear and gold got returned with no changes.
So I think, maybe they just want to do it on their own. I can understand that. Boy was I wrong. They all /gquit. Whoa! No warning, no explanation. My Guild Leader agrees that these people could have used some help and is confused as to why they would quit. I’m not sure what to do about the situation as now the guild is even smaller than it was before.
Oh, the life of a guild.
Any guild. They all have this problem to a greater or lesser degree.
One suggestion I’d make for recruiting like-minded people is to party up regularly – if your guild does dungeons, party up for dungeons but don’t ONLY party with guildmates – make sure you include outsiders as well, and use it as a way to see if that outsider might fit in and might be interested in joining.
That being said, most of my friends are spread out in different guilds as while we’re friends, we all have different goals and each of the toons that we’re focusing on are at different levels. We come together to share good times and socialize, but we’ve given up trying to be in the same guild
Valdesta
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Sometimes no matter how well intentioned you are people don’t want your advice or help. Perhaps that was what happened here. I have no idea of the approach you used but maybe your enthusiasm for trying to improve your guild mates was too much for them. Personally I think it is their loss. I think there are a couple of questions to ask yourself: 1. Will staying within your current guild allow you to achieve what you want in the game and therefore mean you are having fun? There’s no point staying in a situation out of loyalty if it’s no fun for you. 2. Could your approach towards helping people be improved? Were you perhaps a little overwhelming with your assistance?
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You might be right, I may have been a bit too forceful. I never put anybody down though. I never would say hey, you play like crap, your gear looks goofy, and you smell funny.
But 20g repairs from the GBank everyday when we’re not raiding and not doing heroics tells me something must be going on, no?