8 Things An Anorexic Wants You To Know May20

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8 Things An Anorexic Wants You To Know

Hello there! We’ve all heard stories about anorexic people, and I think is time for us to start seeing this illness from their point of view. It’s easy to talk, and make assumptions about something we don’t understand so, now we have the other side, we have a view from the inside of this illness. This is to make you understand better what does it feel to be an anorexic. Or, at least, to make you understand a little better what a person with anorexia goes thru. I’m not talking about everyone that has or had anorexia, but in some times, this starts in a very innocent way. It’s not about Barbie’s or about how that supermodel looks like or “Oh, I want to be like her!” Sorry to disappoint you, but most of the time it doesn’t work like this. In some cases, specially in young pre-teenagers, it’s just about dieting. Not that this girls need it, but because it’s what everybody else is doing – it’s what adults do – so, why not give it a try? It sounds like fun at the beginning. And then… It’s just too late. You don’t even realize what is happening. You wont be able to recognize the symptoms. You’re just in a diet. At some point, this turns into something bigger, something worse. A person with anorexia wants to be left alone. This doesn’t mean that you don’t like your family and friends or don’t want to be with them. You just want everyone to leave you alone when is time to eat, or when they’ll have a snack. You don’t want to be reminded of food, you don’t want to see them eating, you don’t want them to ask you out to dinner or save you a sit next to them at lunch. Because that means you’ll have to sit there and feel the temptation, having to resist. This is why you prefer to be by yourself. When you’re alone, it’s easier to control what you eat, you don’t feel so tempted and – most of all -, you don’t have to feel everyone eyes when they realize you’re not eating and start judging you. I don’t know how does it feel to be in prison. What I do know, and I believe all of us can relate to this feeling, at least at some point – the feeling of being trapped inside your head. An anorexic person relates to this. It feels like your body and your brain, mostly your brain, is a prison. You can see the world outside, but you can’t get there. Your mind wouldn’t let you. There is the feeling o being disconnected from the world, as if you’re watching a movie, you see everyone you know moving on with their lives, but you can’t. You’re just watching. You’re stuck. There is this voice in their head that won’t let them have a normal life (as normal as it can get). This voice traps them, telling them they’re not worth it, and at some point, you start believing her. I feel like a lot of people think about that if you have anorexia, you don’t want to eat. You don’t feel hungry. Well, that isn’t right. Not at all. If you have anorexia, you crave for food. You just resist to temptation. You have to. Some people with anorexia become hipper sensitive to food, the smell, the taste, everything. You can feel, you know by instinct that somewhere in the room, someone is about to have a snack. Some people with anorexia want to eat so badly, that they become obsessed with recipes, as if looking at images and photographs about food, reading some awesome recipe is enough, pretending that this is as good as having a real meal. At the beginning of this illness, there is a need to control everything like, “Let’s see if I can be without eating that last part on my plate”, or “Let’s see how many miles can I run. Can I run another one? Can I make this last effort?” A person with anorexia wants to feel better, be a better version of herself. You fight for it, even against yourself. And at the beginning, you’re in control, or that’s what you think. But, at some point, the illness takes control of your mind. This illness has a voice, that keeps punching you towards a situation you can’t control. At some point, you lose all control – this was what you wanted the most, to be in control -, and you start being controlled by this voice, and not to do what she is telling you is out of question. Even if you want. This is a complicated topic to explain. If you have anorexia, you know that you need help, you want help. But at the same time, that little voice inside your mind, that controls you, tells you what to do, that voice doesn’t want anyone to help. So, as confusing as it can be, a person with anorexia will push everyone away. You’ll say that you’re fine, that you don’t need them. That you don’t want anyone’s help. But that’s not true. You do want help, desperately. You just don’t know how to accept help – and, let’s be honest here, most people don’t know how to help. They’re so worried about you that, sometimes, they try to force things, and that’s not the right way to do it – just don’t ask me what the right way is, I don’t know, but patience sounds like something good. This was a total surprise to me. I mean, anorexia is a mental illness, it plays with your mind, but I never thought that you would be conscious that something is wrong. When you have anorexia you know something is wrong, you realize that you’re not too fat, you realize that you need help. What makes other people think “Why don’t you get help?” Well, remember that voice I’ve talked about? That voice makes you feel like you’re not good enough, like you don’t deserve to eat, makes you believe that you’re not worthy. After that, even if you know that this isn’t right – or true – the guilt acts and doesn’t allow for the believe systems to change back to normal. You feel guilty about asking for help. We’ve all fest guilty about something, at some point. You know the feeling. But can you imagine feeling guilty for thinking about food? For wanting to eat? Being hungry? The guilt is something that keeps an anorexic feeling badly about themselves. It’s one of the biggest factors to make the recovery something so hard to do. The feeling that you’re doing something wrong keeps you from doing it, and if that doesn’t work, the guilt does the job. If eating is something wrong, the guilt will keep anyone from doing it. It’s as simple as that. It’s not rational, or logical, but this illness taking charge of your mind, so it doesn’t have to make sense, it just happens. If you know someone with anorexia or you suspect some of your friends or family can be an anorexic, don’t freak out. Search for help – medical and psychological help – and be patient. Remember that most of the time, anorexia comes with depression, you have more information about depression here. I’ll love to hear your thoughts about this subject! Leave a comment bellow!